FULFILLING YOUR GOALS: IDENTIFY AND ELIMINATE OBSTACLES
Take the opportunity to continue or start new objectives (goals). Goals you want to achieve in your life and you have identify that you want to explore new avenues that will allow you to feel better about yourself and certainly will give you the opportunity to have a healthier lifestyle and happiness. For this, you have to establish what many people call the ‘resolutions’.
The word resolution implies action and effect to work something out. Resolutions are usually things that you want to achieve, such as quitting smoking, losing weight, finish an academic degree, changing jobs, among other desires. Now, the easy part is to wish and decide. Once you have done this, you need to have ideas of what actions you must do to achieve it and develop a plan of action. However, if during this journey you feel your goal is unattainable and you begin to experience and feel discouraged. What happened? You will never accomplish anything.
IF YOU IDENTIFY WITH THIS EXPERIENCE I INVITE YOU TO THINK ABOUT SOME OF THE POSSIBLE FACTORS THAT INTERFERE WITH ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS.
1. Lack of self-efficacy. The term self-efficacy (Bandura, 1977) represents a vital aspect when we make changes and develop new behaviors. Without it there is no motivation and therefore, your behavior will not promote you to move to a different situation. A person with a sense of self-efficacy is one that truly believes it has the capabilities to perform in all he seeks to achieve. This is necessary since it will allow to get the results you want. Ask yourself: Do you really feel able to achieve it.
2. Cognitive Distortion. Lack of self-efficacy influences the way you feel, think and act. If you have a low sense of self-efficacy you will experience low self-esteem because deep inside you do not feel you’re good enough or able to do. You begin to feel, think and act like you’re not worthy to make those changes in your life and the positive things you want for yourself. This could involve feelings of sadness, anxiety and helplessness.
3. Old habits of behavior. Habits are learned conduct patterns and that are basically automatic and reinforced as part of you for long time. These serve as elements of self-sabotage. Some people sabotage themselves with postponing the start of new actions (habits), allowing their behaviors and emotions control them without paying attention to what they do or do not do.
4. Unreasonable expectations. When proposed objectives are too far from reality and/or personal resources, which will allow you to reach your set goals. To questions, if it is really possible to achieve what you want is a good thing. Otherwise may result in feelings of inferiority and frustration.
5. Unrealistic time expectations. Significant changes take time, therefore, be cautious in giving in before obtaining the desired results and achievements. Remember the great results are not immediate. To think otherwise could ruin your plans.
6. Not having clear objectives and/or priorities. If you are not truly aware of your goals and your set priorities in your life; it will be difficult that your everyday actions will allow you to take the time, energy and attention to achieve your goals.
7. Negative interpersonal relations. Unfortunately, we live in a society that emphasizes the negative and reinforces conformity, failure. Stay away from every relationship and interaction with people who in one way or another do not promote the achievement of your goals. You really do not need them.
You most likely identify with some. If so, add them to your list of resolutions. Take each obstacle and consider it as one more goal to solve. Identify possible solutions for each obstacle and create an action plan to resolve each. Review your goals and the steps needed to achieve your goal. Use a flexible table that you can modify as need it over time. Keep a journal where you can write everything and track your efforts and progress. Identify and write new obstacles that may arise along the way (remember everything is not perfect and there are things out of your control). Keep the notion of how you may solve any problem with the obstacles that may occur in meeting your goals. Finally, watch your thoughts. If you believe in yourself and persist, you will achieve your goals.
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