Boundaries, your best ally for Happiness
Boundaries are your best ally for happiness when you use them to your advantage. The boundaries are the limits between two things. But, what has this to do with happiness? From the psychological perspective presented here, the boundaries help us to establish a balance between our personal needs and the needs of others. The boundaries can be considered your best ally in happiness when they contribute to healthy relationships and a lifestyle out of stress.
According to Dr. L. Pederson (2014), there are different boundaries that establish and maintain the values and security in your life. She also mentions that the boundaries are conditional to your personality, something that makes it a bit complex because these are not universal, rather unique and exclusive to each person. The following are four types of boundaries that can lead you to happiness, according Pederson. These are:
• Physical boundaries. Anything that includes some direct physical contact with you. Includes all levels of physical intimacy and sexual practice. Furthermore, what we allow to enter our body as food and beverages. In other words, anything that affects your physical well-being.
• Psychological boundaries. Includes all information about yourself, your thoughts, beliefs and values. Who knows about you and how that information is shared? Here, we include everything even conversation topics and anything else that occupies your mind space.
• Emotional boundaries. Feelings, emotions and their influence on you. How these can affect you and manipulate you. Also includes not expect anything from anyone, nor that others expect anything from you in this regard.
• Spiritual boundaries. The ability to choose a religion, spiritual life, or any other spiritual power.
• General boundaries. Everything that defines and differentiates you from others and differentiates the others from you. It is everything you need to stay healthy and safe in your relationships.
For you to practice this every day we will suggest you can reflect and describe each area boundaries that are important to you. That is, on paper describes the specifics of what physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual and general boundaries you want for yourself. Once you have done this, remember them and keep these in your mind, as these are protective factors against unhappiness and conflicting relationships in your life.
To know more about you, is the beginning of following a healthy lifestyle, aligned to your needs and psychological security. What do you think, are you ready to try it?
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