The benefits of assertive
discipline in children
Everything we think, do and feel, have been substantially
influenced by the way we were disciplined in our childhood. When we refer to
the term 'discipline' we are talking about the means used to change, to mold,
to adopt a conduct of a person in order to act in a responsible manner.
Considering the impact of discipline in the development and education of
children, it is important to know some important factors that influence
discipline.
There are four authority styles:
1.
Authoritative.
Uses physical punishment. For those parents who choose this style of parenting,
they must consider the negative consequences in their relationships with their children.
It is suggested to note that there will be social problems, will be patterns of
aggression, communication problems, will have difficulty initiating and
establishing social relationships.
2.
Permissive
indifferent. This style is characterized by thoughts to be beneficial only if
conflicts are avoided. If the parents do not have knowledge of their children
activities (that they actually do), they do not establish rules, limits, and instead
of taking responsibility to do they prefer to ignore it. When this occurs it will
develop behaviors and values of irresponsibility, social incompetence, and the
children will value their activities more than their parents. They will feel
the need to always receive the attention.
3.
Permissive
indulgent. These are parents who are aware of their children, participate
in their activities, but do not demand controls and do not teach them
responsibility. The consequences of this style are the inabilities to control
their impulses, self-control problems and have difficulty respecting others.
4.
Authoritative.
It is the parent who establishes clear rules and demands to follow the rules. They
are affectionate, have open communication with their children, they correct the
appropriate faults. The consequences of this style are the possible lack of development
of a sense of responsibility, confidence, self-regulation and social competence.
Discipline is not an easy task, requires a sufficient
maturity, consciousness, self-control and knowledge of the needs and
developmental stages of children. If you do identify with some of these styles
that result in negative consequences we suggest you start taking action. Here
are some healthy measures: talk to the child and sets goals of discipline,
identify desirable and undesirable behaviors. Develop skills of listening and
respond-no react. Give effective commands, select a method of discipline that
immediately reward good behavior, do not reward the misconduct and use the
appropriate punishment for any misbehavior.
Finally, if you do not have good controls and need direction
to develop and implement a healthy and effective discipline with your children
to help them be okay with themselves and society, it is never too late. Get
help, consult a professional in this area or contact us to assist you in the
process of transformation.
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